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Intent is not a thought, or an object, or a wish. Intent is what can make a man succeed when his thoughts tell him that he is defeated. It operates in spite of the warrior’s indulgence. Intent is what makes him invulnerable. Intent is what sends a shaman through a wall, through space, to infinity. ~ Carlos Castaneda .
Welcome back… Success. So many people want her badly, but so few achieve her. Two people come in the ring, but only one comes out. Two men enter in a bar but only one leaves with the pretty girl: The other walks out alone. Success. It is everywhere and no where. Yet it seems that behind this frenzy of images, sounds and feelings some patterns start to emerge. Comedians, Athletes, Public Performers, Scientists.... there is no one that can escape from them. You see, all people out there are looking for something. Some desire money, other desire women and other desire a bold carrier. However, most of them WILL never ACHIEVE it. It seems bitter, no? There are so many people out there that cannot stand losing. However instead of making a better effort and improve, they start bringing up shields: Ego Protection Defenses. They blame the weather, they blame the judges or they blame their opponents. They will start unconsciously doing things slightly wrong, so that they can blame their own mistakes afterwards and not the fact that they weren’t good enough. There are people out there that cover failures using Blind Spots. They will convince themselves that competing is not good for them. They will lie to them selves in order to keep their emotional stability because if they wouldn't do it, they wouldn't be able to cope with the fact that they didn't succeed.
Most people have patterns in everything they do in their life and failure could not be an exception. When you start something new, think: Have your ever messed up something back in your life? The way you messed it up will probably return and haunt you, provoking problems with your recently set goal. It can be anything: lack of attention to detail, not finishing what you started or just not working enough. Anything. There is a hidden meaning here: If you ARE *not* THE BEST YOU CAN BE at what you are doing right NOW, you will probably not succeed in future endeavors either. “People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals / that is, goals that do not inspire them.” - Anthony Robbins quote There was a time when I used to compete in track and field. Back then, when I was still training, most people could not understand how did I manage to keep doing it. For many years I was taking part in competitions, I was standing on the blocks, and I was running my top speed to finish…. last. My friends were asking me: "How do you manage to continue training?!". However, I didn't see it with their way because I had my one philosophy for success: The only way to succeed in something is by making it a habit. Your goal is not winning that one race: You goal is to show up at training; rain or snow, tired or hungry. Show up. Just that. Do the practice, every single time without caring about success or not.
Success is always late. It looks like j-curve if you want. You will spend a lot of time without succeeding. You will pick your pieces up, AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. What you can do is to CONTINUE. The only thought you should have is to stick to your habit. When success finally comes, it will be like a quantum leap. Changes don’t come gradually, holding a feather and being suave. They come with a hammer and they start with a bang. You will not start flying slowly. You will TAKE OFF roaring. The world will pass around you in hyper speed. People around you will try to figure out what happened. The same people that one week before where making fun of you, now they will talk about magic. People go out and see artist or athletes that perform miracles and call them talents: What they forget is that these people have spent most of their life practicing, rehearsing and sweating. They did that for years and they got to that level. For them there is no surprise: They just trained. HAVE BLIND FAITH AT THE PROCESS. A very nice repeat. HAVE BLIND FAITH AT THE PROCESS. I used to have that written down in my room. UNDERSTAND: Whatever you do often, you become good at. This means that if you are trying often to do the extra mile you will be stronger to do that extra mile while if you are good at bringing up excuses you will become good at bringing up excuses. You choose. You must learn to trust the effort and continue until you achieve your goal, even when the end doesn't seem to be close. You have to swim all the way until the finish line. If you manage to do that, then every time you start some project you will gain some confidence only from the fact that you, unlike the rest, always train until the finish line. That is courage.
I read a very interesting book from Michael Jordan lately. There are so many people out there talking about personal development and success. However, most of them the only thing they have been good at was teaching it. On the other hand, Michael Jordan was one of the BEST athletes that has been out there and made a career in a VERY competing sport.
Every one knows that success in sports has nothing to do with muscles. It is all brains. One step too early or one step too late and you are gone. You are vaporized. He wrote a book lately where he talked about the pressure of taking that one, crucial shot. When the whole stadium was holding its breath, he closed his eyes... and took the shot. He said that if you have practiced and practiced, then you have every right to lose that shot. To let yourself forget the outcome. And there is where the magic lies: If you forget the outcome then it all becomes a game again. Exactly, like when a boy is out playing with his friends. The deal is very simple: Be your best at whatever you do at every moment. Be fully present. This means ALSO when you take the garbage out or when you prepare your meal. Be the best all the time. After some time this will be so internalized that you will excel at anything you do from that point on. Time *will* bring the results. If you put 5000 hours into some project, whatever that may be, then you will start having impressive results. Then we come to beliefs. You have to believe that you can achieve it. You have to see yourself on the top of that mountain. You have to visualize it. For god's sake, in the simulations you do in your mind, you HAVE to COME OUT WINNER. You have to GO THERE *first* with your mind, if you want your body to FOLLOW. You have to have a clear vision of the outcome you want to achieve. If there is no planned outcome you will not make it. You have to know EXACTLY how success will look like. Win yourself and start from inside. If you notice any thought that is not positive with no clear reason, shut it off right away. Wait no longer than 3 seconds. Make that an exercise and keep doing it for 21 days because hat is the time you need to set a habit. It will make you more empowered. It will build a winner. Another fact is that most people that were damn good at something, at some point in their life, they were really obsessed by it. This is not television time. This is about being a man. I am not an army enthusiast, but I was watching the other day this video about Navy Seals Selection. These people are survivors. They will do anything to get to their goal. They will swim in the frozen winter sea, they will run kilometers deprived from sleep, they will pedal while they are sleeping, and all that *only* to get to their goal: Succeed in one of the MOST demanding, psychologically and physically, trainings that there is on this planet.
Set a goal. See yourself there. Make a plan. Make it a habit. Forget the outcome. Believe in it.
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